I'm sure I'm not alone in asking this question and I'm sure many of you have succesfully negotiated this little dillema. How can I convince my wife that swinging is the way ahead? I'm not going to write my life story on here, suffice to say that we're happily married and have been toying with the idea of visiting a swingers club or just getting a 'taste' of what its all about. I've shown her this site and to be fair she's quite impressed (and why wouldn't she be - it's a cracking place!).
So what's the big deal I hear you say? Well she's got cold feet over the last few weeks and I need to stir things up again. I won't pressure her by any means and most certainly won't force her to do anything she doesn't want to do. But how can I light that fire again, what's a good starting point?
I was absolutely petrified of even logging into a swinging site just incase someone could trace me. I knew perfectly well they couldn't but all reason flew out the window and to be honest I found any excuse to run to a safe place in my mind.
Over time I stepped closer and closer to the scene. All small steps and some backward ones too (infact quite a few backward steps). There were times when I felt wretched, guilty etc etc but I accept that it can sometimes be a bit of a rollercoaster ride.
We had great fun along the way and were always prepared to experience new things and say NO when we didn't want to go further. We respected each other, (still do) and we talked and talked and talked and talked.
We have had the time of our lives and I feel completely liberated.
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